Nov 4

Guest Post: Child Free at 30 Something

What does it truly mean to be child free, and why do some people choose to do so? Not only is it a personal choice, but it is not a permanent status - sometimes we choose the path of parenthood later than expected by society for the sake of our own mental health and our potential children's quality of life. Hear from Edie, who is currently child free by choice at this moment in her life.

People ask me why I am not a Mother yet and if I ever want to have children. Being a mother is wonderful. I’ve seen it first hand and I can imagine.

For me, I am just not ready to change my identity. Once a mother always a mother. I know I will be one, a beautiful, fascinating and thoughtful experience. I want it. Just not right now.

Well you are getting older... You know, it's hard and dangerous to have kids older, now is your time!

I know that when the time comes and my heart, mind, and body are ready, it will happen. I have no doubt, I feel it in my bones.

I want to keep being Me, and although some say it may be selfish, we are only alive for a certain amount of time and have only one life to do, create, and experience everything we want. There is no timeline but our own.

I want to continue to get to know myself. When you have children, they will always be an extension of you, you become one. I want to keep learning and experiencing my solo mind and heart. When you have children, they become your heart, your mind and your entire soul. I want to keep pushing myself in different directions and even fall to the deepest ends sometimes, with no remorse. I want to spend my money on stupid things and keep meeting people from all walks of the world. I want to have regretful experiences, take those lessons and live life on the wild side.

I want to jump to those crazy ideas that sometimes form in my head with no second thought, just a good solid plan that I came up with in a minute, and wish it to the stars that it works. I want to cry and feel hopeless then get right back on. I want to keep building my person and experiencing everything I can so that I can tell these stories to my kids, so that I can paint nice pictures in their head, and hopefully lend a helping wise mind to whatever comes to arise, because I’ve been there.

I did that too and then I became your role model, that solid person you can look up to and admire for so many things, Your Mother.

Live Long, live joyful, live You.